Love is a verb and an action and not a feeling. Somehow we all know that because we know that when someone says, “I love you”, it does not necessarily mean that they do. We want to see their love in action. Love also is who someone is and love flows from the person who loves. Love does not come from the recipient but from the one who loves. If it comes from the recipient then it is a conditional love that is a “I love you because…” and that kind of love will never sustain a relationship or marriage. Love must come from the one who loves. Sometimes that love is returned and sometimes it is not returned. That is the risk that the one who loves has to take. God took that risk with Adam and Eve when He created them and He has taken that risk with us.
Love was the plan and life was the choice. Eve could choose to live in the love that the Lord planned for her and Adam or choose death and the corruption, guilt and shame that would follow.
Love is good and one of the meanings of the word “good” in the Bible is “the highest form of love”. The Lord is good and He only seeks what is good for us and His actions towards us are the highest expressions of love. When He created man He created man to be loved and to love.
Since Adam named the serpent then he knew the character of the serpent. The serpent was more crafty than any beast of the field. His name “serpent” means “to enchant”. The devil chose to disguise himself in the serpent because the serpent was enchanting and beautiful.
Love does not tempt someone to do what is not right in the eyes of the Lord. The Bibles says that it is wrong for a man to look on a woman with lust for her.
Love is a gift that the Lord gives. He wants every married couple to discover His gift of love and to keep it. When a man and a woman get married they both have great intentions to love one another and yet not all who find love end up keeping the deep and abiding love that can last a lifetime that the Lord planned for them. Many married couples either split up or end up existing together but few have a greater love for each other at the end of their lives together than they did at the beginning of their marriage.
Love makes us vulnerable because it sets up the possibility of rejection and yet, the joy comes when we love someone for who they are and when they return the love with loving back in total acceptance. This is God’s love and this mutual love can not be found anywhere else. It is His design and when we live according to His design then we will praise Him and thank Him for His wisdom, His kindness, His perfection and His amazing plan for us.
Adam and Eve needed the Lord and they needed Him to instruct them and to show them how to do life. The sooner that we realize that we are the clay and that the Lord is the Potter then the happier and stronger our lives and marriages will be.
For love to last in any relationship then it must be established on the foundation of God’s Word and the knowledge of Him.
Love must have a foundation to stand strong against the storms that will assail against it. A loving relationship is like a house and it must be built upon the right foundation. The foundation must be immovable and unchangeable because people, relationships and circumstances change. If a marriage or friendship has the right foundation then it will grow stronger over time and become sweeter to those who abide in the relationship where love is strong.