Keeping God’s commandments is expressing love to others. When we keep His commandments then we love God and we love others. The greatest commandment sums up all the other commandments.
“What commandment is the foremost of all?” Jesus answered, “The foremost is, ‘Hear, O Israel! The Lord our God is one Lord; and you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind, and with all your strength.’ The second is this, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.” Mark 12:28b-31
When people do not keep God’s commandments and they live as if there are no laws of God then that is called lawlessness. When lawlessness is increased then people’s hearts become callous and love grows cold.
Because lawlessness is increased, most people’s love will grow cold. Matthew 24:12
Love and lawlessness can not abide in the same person. Those who love will keep God’s commandments. Those who do not keep His commandments do not love either God or others.
Everyone who practices sin also practices lawlessness; and sin is lawlessness. I John 3:4
Satan is “the man of lawlessness” and he is also the “son of destruction”. Satan came to destroy and he will use lawlessness to destroy a marriage. Lawlessness destroys the love in the marriage and then the marriage is destroyed.
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; John 10:10a
Lawlessness is the opposite of righteousness, which is doing what is right in God’s eyes. God’s commandments are good and they are righteous. When we love God’s Word and do what He says by keeping His commandments then we will be happy.
“You have loved righteousness and hated lawlessness; Therefore God, Your God, has anointed You With the oil of gladness above Your companions.” Hebrews 1:9
When we keep His commandments then it will be well with us and with our marriage.
But this is what I commanded them, saying, ‘Obey My voice, and I will be your God, and you will be My people; and you will walk in all the way which I command you, that it may be well with you.’ Jeremiah 7:23
If you will learn to listen to the Lord and obey His Word then He will instruct you in the way that you should go. The Lord will teach you how to love and He will be with you in your marriage. The Lord will bless you and strengthen you. You will be happy and your family will be blessed.
How blessed is everyone who fears the Lord,
Who walks in His ways.
When you shall eat of the fruit of your hands,
You will be happy and it will be well with you.
Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine
Within your house,
Your children like olive plants
Around your table.
Behold, for thus shall the man be blessed
Who fears the Lord. Psalm 128:1-4
The Lord has some amazing promises for the person who will listen to Him delight in His commandments and obey Him with all of their heart. The Lord will give that person what the rest of the world seeks. His children will be mighty on the earth and will be blessed. Wealth and riches will be in his house. He will have the righteousness of Jesus Christ, which endures forever and the Lord will give him light and guidance during, not only the good days, but the dark days as well.
How blessed is the man who fears the Lord,
Who greatly delights in His commandments.
His descendants will be mighty on earth;
The generation of the upright will be blessed.
Wealth and riches are in his house,
And his righteousness endures forever.
Light arises in the darkness for the upright;
He is gracious and compassionate and righteous.
It is well with the man who is gracious and lends;
He will maintain his cause in judgment.
For he will never be shaken;
The righteous will be remembered forever. Psalm 112:1b-6
The one who fears God and greatly delights in His commandments will not live in fear when bad news comes. His heart will remain calm because his trust is in the Lord. He will not be afraid when everyone else is fearful because he will know the One who holds the world in His hands.
He will not fear evil tidings;
His heart is steadfast, trusting in the Lord.
His heart is upheld, he will not fear, Psalm 112:7-8a
If you want to fan the flame of love in your love relationship then you must not compromise what you know is the right thing to do. You must learn what the Lord says to do and do it with all of your heart. His commandments are good for you and for the one you love. The build trust and love grows where the Lord is and He comes to the one who remembers Him and obeys His Word.
in every place where I cause My name to be remembered, I will come to you and bless you. Exodus 20:24b